I think having clearly defined pregnancy boundaries is important.
Pregnancy can be such an emotional time. We need to do whatever we can to keep ourselves calm for our children. I wrote mine out when I was pregnant with my daughter. Here’s what I said:
At 28 weeks, I started my pre-term labor adventure with my last pregnancy. I don’t know what caused it. Maybe it was the bladder infection, maybe it was the subsequent yeast infection after the antibiotics which I’m sure was only increased by the millions of gallons of glucose I had for my 1 hour and three hour glucose tests. Maybe I didn’t have enough water.
Then again, maybe, as my doctor suggested to me yesterday, pre-term labor and early contractions are just how my body deals with stress.
You see, I’ve been getting contractions and he says there’s no way for me to know if they are just normal contractions or if they are setting up to repeat history. I can feel them in my cervix now. A few weeks ago, I couldn’t.
So here’s the deal: this pregnancy will be easy for me from here on out. I have paid my pregnancy dues and I deserve for this pregnancy to go smoothly.
Here are my boundaries which I will need everyone to be respectful of:
*Unless I offer, I am not your therapist.
*I don’t want to chat with you about my OB.
*I don’t want to be shamed for how I drink coke to settle my stomach.
*I don’t want to be told to take my prenatal vitamin. I took it for ten years religiously to build up my vitamin stores in the event that I may get pregnant. Let’s face it, the most crucial time we need that folic acid is before we even know we’re pregnant. If I felt for one moment that I could take them AND keep down any food, I would.
*Don’t pressure me to be social, chances are I’m tired. If I don’t want to go, I won’t go.
*Don’t tell me how to parent my children.
*Don’t try to flirt with my husband.
*Don’t talk to me about vaccinating or not vaccinating children, I’m not in the mood to discuss it anymore.
*Don’t ask me to join a club or start taking an activity with you.
*Don’t ask me about my step-son’s mother, as far as I am concerned, that is me.
And above all….
*Do not ask me if this pertains to you. I clearly defined the parameters. You will be safest just assuming that this does, in fact, pertain to you.
Pretty gutsy huh? 😉
If you made a list of your pregnancy boundaries what would be on it?