There are multiple reasons why mothers choose to homeschool, and I’ve found that the reasons are almost never the reasons I used to think people homeschooled their children. I used to think people homeschooled their children solely for religious reasons or because they were over protective. In reality, families tend to homeschool because they do not have faith that their children will be able to maintain their individuality and autonomy and thrive to their full potential in the public school system.
I’ve been fortunate enough to work with some pretty amazing people in the school districts I’ve been involved with. I’ve seen people giving it their all for my children. I’ve seen teachers willing (and grateful) to be communicating with me about all of my children. So, please know: I’m not anti-public school in any way.
The biggest concern any parent considering homeschool has mentioned to me is, “What about socialization?”
Let’s go back a second. Socialization. I don’t have all the answers, but I really think my 11 year old would have blossomed more fully without that kind of “socialization.”
Many ask themselves, “What is it that makes us think that children will grow up socially inept if they are not constantly surrounded by 29 other children exactly their same age?” In what “real world scenario” would a person be in that kind of environment as an adult?
It didn’t used to be like this. It’s essentially a new thing, if you think about it. From The Library of Congress:
In the 19th and early 20th centuries, most American students attended a one-room schoolhouse. A single teacher would typically have students in the first through eighth grades, and she taught them all. The number of students varied from six to 40 or more. The youngest children sat in the front, while the oldest students sat in the back. The teacher usually taught reading, writing, arithmetic, history, and geography. Students memorized and recited their lessons.
Certainly, our kids are learning much more advanced math and science lessons now than their 20th century same-age counterparts did. But that’s not the point, because that’s not the argument, certainly parents unable to teach advanced lessons should not attempt it, but what about socialization?
Do you homeschool? Do you have any problems with your children being socially capable?