At some point, depending on the kind of birth you have, your doctor or midwife will say you are ready to – ahem – get back in the saddle again.
Usually, this is around the six or eight week post-partum time frame, which is when most women are still maybe not quite ready for that kind of action yet.
While everyone is different – and every birth and post-partum time frame are unique – the fact is, sex (is usually) what gets you a baby and chances are, you will want to be intimate with your partner again. At some point.
Sex after baby. Here are four things you need to know. Read on:
You might be too tired
Life with a new baby is exhausting. You are feeding, changing, sleeping (or not). And that’s just the baby! The first few months are exhausting and can be a blur. Sex might be the last thing on your mind and that’s OK! Try to reconnect with your partner in other ways. A hug, some kissing. Talking or holding hands. It’s a big change!
You might be dry
If you are nursing, it might be hard to create enough natural lubrication for so that sex is comfortable. That’s normal and there are workarounds if you are in the mood but your body isn’t quite ready. Try a water-based lubricant and see how it goes. If it isn’t comfortable, try something else! Or try again another day.
You might be touched out
Holding a new baby all day, every day can leave a new parent feeling touched out. The thought of touching (or being touched) can have a negative feeling and that’s OK. It’s normal and it WILL pass.
You might be scared of pregnancy
Despite the believe that you can’t get pregnant while you are nursing (or if your period hasn’t returned), it’s actually not true. Plenty of couples have gotten pregnant again soon after the birth of a child. It’s a normal fear so talk to your doctor or midwife about birth control!
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