Love languages: How to connect with your children the way they want (and need!)

You have probably heard of the five love languages, pertaining to a romantic relationship.

It’s true, they exist, and many adults have used them to improve their relationships.

But did you know that your kids have love languages too and learning them can help improve your bond? It’s true!

Kids want and need different kinds of love from their parents. You first need to watch how your child shows YOU love. That’s likely their love language, as people usually give affection to others in the way they most like to receive it.

Once you figure that out, you are good to go.

Physical affection

Do you have a little cuddle bug? Does your child love to be hugged, kissed and cuddled? Chances are, physical affection is their love language. If your kids can’t seem to get enough physical touch, this is likely their love language. Show them love by snuggling, hugging, high fiving, head patting. It’s your choice.

Gifts galore

Does your little one light up when they get a present? For many people, gifts are their love language. This isn’t about begging for more stuff. Watch your child when they are given a true gift. If they get more excited or happier, or seem to glow, this is likely their love language. This doesn’t mean you have to buy them tons of expensive gifts. Sometimes, giving them a small token can be enough.

Words

If your child is a talker and listens to every word you say, you probably have a child who has words of affirmation as his or her love language. And if your child tells you they love you or gives you compliments; you can be sure. A child like this will love a note taped to their bathroom mirror or getting “caught being good.”

Acts of service

Does your little one know how to do something for themselves but ask you to do it? Tying a shoe, fetching a snack or brushing hair: They can all be considered acts of service to a young child. These kids like thoughtful gestures. This doesn’t mean you have to do them ALL, just keep it in mind.

Quality time

All kids like spending time with their parents, but if yours seems to love it above all else, you probably have a child whose love language is quality time. This one is easy. Spend time with your child, one on one. It doesn’t have to be all day every day. But 10-15 minutes a day of focused time can really help.

Everything Birth

At Everything Birth, we hope you enjoy this month of love with your family.